I am stand in my classroom and hear that it’s a lot of noise in the hall, high excited voices and screams. Of course I go there to see how I can help.

When I get there it’s a crack in the glass that sits in the door and students’ faces look confused.

My obvious question is ”How did this happen?”
A student looks at me and say it was a little boy in second grade who kicked at the door.
Me: ”Do you know how it is that he kicked?”
Student: ”Yes, he wanted out!”
Me: ”What prevented him to come out?”
Student: ”The door was shut.”
Me: ”In what way was the door closed?”
Student: ”I was holding it.”
Me: ”And then …”
Student: ”Then he kicked at the door.”
Me: ”So that the glass was broken?”
Student: ”Yes.” Me: ”Is not it you responsible for the glass was broken!”
Student: ”No, he had not had to kick on the glass!”
Me: ”If the door had been opened, he never had the need to kick the dorr and he could walk straight out.”
Student: ”It was his fault that the glass broke, I was just holding the door!”

This is a pretty common exchange of words between student and teacher in the school, students are often unable to see their own part in events. They find it so easy to find an excuse or explanation for why they themselves are entirely without responsibility, it is surprising, in my opinion that it is others who have any responsibility at all times.

Much of my time is spent resolving such conflicts, it feels as if the students have too little emotional stimulation and thus seeks out situations like this.
I want more support from parents, to talk about behavior at home, how responsibility is distributed, how a good friend behaves etc.

I suspect the traditional form of spending time together have been reduced so much that parents risk losing touch with their children.

Talk more with your children about everything and nothing.

/ Patric