One of the few times when people allow themselves to feel a different feeling than joy or anger, is when a member of the family has passed away.

Pain is also feeling, but a kind of feeling that most people can understand and relate to. However, it is usually a transient pain and can be relieved in several ways.

When a great-grandmother passes away, it is something else, life stops for a moment and your focus on life takes on another meaning.
The world is becoming both smaller and bigger at the same time, less because you just see all the images and memories that have the great-grandmother to do.
And bigger because of you getting a deeper contact with your emotional life, the deeper the contact is a valuable aid in the life that lies ahead.

No matter how well prepared I have been, there is still a deep longing. A longing only time can heal.

How can I teach my children how to deal with a similar pain?

I think it is quite impossible to teach another person how to deal with this kind of pain. By experience it yourself, you can increase your understanding, and thus become a support for your children.
They will be able to see that you get sad, that you’re more introverted than before. That you are perceived as more absent-minded, you will prioritize differently. They may see you will be sad when you think no one sees.

For children this is easy to accept and learned, if you tell them why you’re sorry because the great-grandmother has passed away. The children see that it’s okay to be sad, they see that it is ok to be absent-minded, wanting to be alone for a while.
They will certainly provide their care and support.
Let them be involved in the process.
When you take the time to grieve and process your loss, children learn how to do.
If you try to hide or ”sweep under the carpet” children learn how to stop feeling and that is deadly.

I know it is sometimes difficult, we rarely get a lot of training and may have no experience at all.

The most important thing is to let children know why you’re sad.

It will be fine. Trust me, it will be fine.

/ Patric

One of the few times when people allow themselves to feel a different feeling than joy or anger.

Pain is ioch happening a sense, but still a kind of feeling that more people can understand and relate to. However, it is usually a transient pain and can be relieved in several ways.

When a great-grandmother passes away, it is something else, life stops for a moment and focus on the concept takes on another meaning.
The world is becoming both smaller and bigger at the same time, less because you just see all the images and memories that have the great-grandmother to do.
And more of you getting a deeper contact with your emotional life, the deeper the contact is a valuable aid in the life that lies ahead.

No matter how well prepared I have been, there is still a deep longing. A missing that only time can heal.

How can I teach my children how to deal with a similar pain?

I think it is quite impossible to teach another person how to deal with the pain. By experience it yourself can increase your understanding, and thus you can become a support for your children.
They will be able to see that you get sad, you’re more introverted than before. That you are perceived as more absent-minded, you will prioritize differently. That you will be sad when you think no one sees.

Children this easy to accept and learn if you tell me you’re sorry for the great-grandmother has passed away. The children see that it’s okay to be sad, they see that it is ok to be absent-minded, having to be alone for a while. They will certainly provide their care and support. Let them be involved in the process.
When you take the time to grieve and process your loss, children learn how to do.
If you try to hide or ”sweep under the carpet” children learn how to stop feeling for.

I know it is sometimes difficult, we rarely work out and may have no experience at all.

The most important thing is to let children know why you’re sorry.

It will be fine. Trust me, it will be fine.

/ Patric