My son asked me the same question I sometimes ask him when it looks like he has difficulties to meet, or if he seems sits in that moment.
The answer I get from him is often very insightful and it shows that he has good sense. Sometimes he needs a little nudge in the right direction to see from a different perspective and be able to make a change.
Now that same little boy asks me and of course I am happy, I can see and hear what I teach have struck a cord and begun to translate into practice. The fact he needs to work a bit with his timing is another thing, it will becom better after trial and error.
The thing is that we have moved to a new apartment, there are many things to be arranged. Everything from old apartment to be packed down and then it must be unpacked again. Nothing strange, but it’s just to do. All are involved with their own stuff and I have urged them to really sort among their things, remove things you never use. Right now is the perfect opportunity.
When I sit in all the mess, that is all unpacked boxes in my new apartment and I feel a bit overwhelmed, , my son gets my attention on me being a little absent. He asks what is going on and I say that there are too many boxes to get through. It feels like it will never end.
That is when he asks the question ”What can you do today to make it better?”.
I get so happy when he says this, it’s like a ton of bricks falling of my shoulders. There is no one who says I have to unpack everything today, or that something needs to be cleared at a specific time other than myself.
I needed some perspective on what I was sitting in and got exactly that help.
To truly follow his (my own) advice, I sat down and made a list of what I wanted done. Then I put priorities on the list to know in what order to do different things.
One of the things that came up was to go swimming with my children. Yesterday we went and swam in the bath house, now from the new apartment, only walking distance from our house. It was really a relief to just go and swim, to spend all the playtime with my children. After two hours I felt ready, my children, however, was not ready. They stayed for a longer time and I went home to grab the next thing on my to do list.
This is no ”world turning ” news, but it was much easier to get started on my ”must-be-done-in-the-apartment-list” and I am sure that many more things got done thanks to help from my son.
The icing on the cake was when my children decied to bake chocolate cupcakes with a wonderful glaze on, it was so good and rich I could only eat three. Though there were enough for five cupcakes each.
So now the question is ”What can I do today to make it better?”, well I will put up a shelf in the bathroom. Where can we place our towels and then tomorrow my brother comes to help me hook up some new sockets, so we have power on the ”right place”.
I know that there will be a very good day today.