Can the relationship between parents affect the child?


Yes it can, and very much so.

Children are very intuitive and they can sense moods between parents. Whether parents say anything or not.
Do you have such a relationship with your partner, children are most likely to have the same kind with their friends. If you have a relationship where you talk (ie, you talk about how things should be done without shouting at each other), your children will talk (they are often perceived as precocious). If you show your partner lots of love, your kids most likely do the same. If you beat your children, you teach your children to beat. There are many more examples everywhere.

In other words, you can control what you want your children to learn. But before setting off wanting to teach your children, you need to discover what you teach.
The easiest way is to see how your parents do / did. You’ve learned from them how to raise your children.
The other way is to work with other children before you get your own. It is often like having your own, the difference is that your children never go ”home”.
They stay with you and brighten your day.
The children who are labeled as tiresome in kindergarten / school often come from ”uninspiring” home. And by uninspiring I mean that there is seldom time for someone to care about what children actually do. It has, in my opinion, with how you use your time. If you take time for your self, your children learn that time on their own is important.

If you  and your partner are talking about problems in the family so that children can hear, they learn to solve and prevent problems in a constructive and peaceful manner. They also learn how to deal with conflicts when you bring things up for discussion. Sometimes it can get a bit ruff and you may be yelling at each other, if you do your children will learn it’s okay to express emotions. An advice is to scream in moderation and stop when the screaming is taking over the conversation.
Now I do not mean for everyone to be saved and pious and altogether wimpy, what I am saying is you should of course do your style but with close attention to how you’re doing things.
Ask yourself this question: ”Would you like to be treated as you treat your child?”

If the answer is yes, good (but ask again just in case).
If the answer is no, then you need to find out what you want to change. Also find out why you want to change. It can be as simple as it feels wrong or that you would like to do differently than your parents. Whatever reason you use it will be easier if you can explain why, to yourself or your spouse.

When you pay attention to how you do things, you will quickly understand why your children do what they do. And it’s often a kick to get insight of yourself. It will benefit your children, your partner and surroundings as well. Simply put, your children to do as you do. If you let someone else solve your problems, you teach your  children to let someone else solve their problems rather than deal with them themselves.
Summary:

Your child does what you do, that’s how they learn things. You can blame your parents (= giving away your responsibility) or learn how your parents did (= take responsibility). There is no shortcut to blame someone else or circumstances for your children have become as they are. It is you who are responsible for your own children. So it’s up to you to make the change you want. You have the power to teach your children what you think is important, and you have a chance from the beginning. Take the opportunity to educate your children the way you believe in, while looking at your own childhood. There you will find a lot that you liked and maybe some you want to change. You decide. Good luck.

Tip 1:

See how your parents raised you, you are most likely to follow their teaching. Especially when things get stressful.

Tip 2:

Work with children to learn how children work. See how you react when you work with children.

Tip 3:

Show your emotions, all feelings are important. So the baby understands it is ok to show their feelings. It is equally important to show appreciation as it is with reprimands.

Tip 4:

Talk through situations with your partner before they occur, and you will ”know how” the other would do or behave, and you will get a better understanding of each other’s opinions (your opinions should be explained).

Tip 5:

Let your children be involved and help, they love to be useful and feel important in your life. It serves you best in the long run.


A person who is mean will not get any friends!
 


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